By Cheyenne Berry, Resilience Consultant and SEL Facilitator
Working in mental health has made me a firm believer in the power of small, intentional practices. The intentional sip of coffee or water that helps you pause for a moment. The deep breath with the extra-long exhale. A quick internal moment of gratitude that helps you notice something good, even when stress feels overwhelming. These "micro-practices" can help us reconnect with the present moment and find the energy to move forward. For educators, these small resets are often all they have time for.
Then there are also times when those small practices simply are not enough. Sometimes the stress we have been carrying starts to show, and students notice our emotions and exhaustion. While those moments can feel uncomfortable, they also offer an important opportunity for us to model emotional regulation. When students see adults acknowledge their feelings, manage challenges, and respond with self-compassion, they learn that emotions are a normal part of being human. Showing students how we navigate difficult moments can be one of the most valuable lessons we can teach.
I recently shared this article from Edutopia, Modeling Emotional Regulation to Support Student Growth, with the staff I support at Redwood Middle School. This resource highlights several simple ways to model emotional regulation in the classroom, and has examples to try with elementary, middle and high school students:
1. Name your emotions out loud.
All students benefit from seeing adults recognize and name their feelings. This simple act normalizes emotions and teaches them that it’s okay to express what they’re feeling.
2. Use coping strategies in real time.
Demonstrating strategies like deep breathing, pausing, or reframing a challenge helps students understand how to manage their own emotional responses.
3. Share age-appropriate personal stories.
Sharing brief stories about how you’ve overcome challenges can inspire students and make you more relatable.
4. Model positive self-talk.
The way we talk to ourselves sets an example for our students. Replace negative or defeatist language with affirming statements that show growth and resilience.
5. Create a culture of emotional safety.
Encourage students to express their emotions and practice regulation strategies. Modeling is essential, but creating opportunities for them to engage in these practices solidifies their learning.
The truth is that our students learn just as much from how we respond to challenges as they do from the lessons we teach. By modeling self-awareness, flexibility, and compassion for ourselves, we give them permission to do the same. This is at the heart of Acknowledge Alliance’s work: helping the caring adults in young people's lives strengthen their own resilience so they can create environments where students thrive. Thank you to all our educators for the care, patience, and dedication you bring to this work. The support you provide students each day matters more than you know, and I am grateful to be part of this community with you.